Changing How You Think About Money Before Making a Budget
Monday, September 14, 2026
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know where to start,” when it comes to your finances, you’re in good company. I hear that line all the time from smart, motivated adults who are juggling careers, family goals, or big transitions, and still feel like money is this one area they haven’t quite figured out.
Whether you’re preparing for a wedding, rebuilding after a divorce, buying your first home, or just trying to understand where your paycheck is going every month, the starting point often feels unclear and overwhelming. And if you feel like everyone else got some kind of financial instruction manual you somehow missed, you’re definitely not alone.
The truth that most financial "how-to" articles don't cover is that the perfect app, a higher salary, or color-coded spreadsheets aren't going to work if you miss the first step. Before trying to build a better budget, you need to work on your money mindset, or how you think about money.
Why Do So Many Budgets Fail?
When people decide they want to get their finances under control, the first thing they’re usually told is to make a budget. That sounds like a reasonable suggestion. Budgets are a great tool to help you use your money to support the life that you want to live. But if you don't change how you think about money, you may find yourself falling back into the same old habits.
When you try to build a budget on top of financial shame, fear, or burnout, it's more likely to fall apart. It’s like trying to run a marathon without stretching first. Technically possible, but painful and probably unsustainable.
During the Welcome to Wealth online program, I start by helping people address the way they think about money before we get into the topics many expect to cover, like budgeting, debt, student loans, and retirement.
I listen as people share their motivations and struggles. Some say they feel like money disappears without them knowing where it went. Others admitted that even though they make decent income and try to save, it never feels like enough.
More than one person has confessed to carrying embarrassment that they didn’t already know how personal finance was “supposed” to work.
That’s why we start with the emotional and practical realities that actually influence your relationship with money.
You Can’t Build a Budget When You're Burnt Out
How are you feeling—physically, mentally, emotionally?
If you’re tired, burned out, or overwhelmed in life, those feelings are going to show up in your finances, too. It’s nearly impossible to make clear, confident money decisions when your brain is stuck in survival mode.
So if the idea of managing your finances feels daunting, pause and check in with yourself.
- Are you sleeping well?
- Staying hydrated?
- Taking care of your basic needs?
When we start with those small self-care steps, we give ourselves a better foundation for making real financial progress.
What’s Really Getting in the Way
I know it’s tempting to look for a “quick fix”. It seems like there should be a strategy or tactic that will suddenly make everything clear. But in most cases, the thing standing between you and a sense of financial confidence isn’t your income or your expenses. It’s the quiet beliefs you carry about money and the shame you’ve never been invited to unpack.
I’ve made my own financial mistakes. One of the financial mistakes happened when I gave $150,000 to a man I barely knew because I believed his pitch about a high-return investment. I didn’t have paperwork. I didn’t do my due diligence. And I lost every dollar. It was money meant for taxes.
That single decision set off a financial spiral that took me years to recover from. And for a long time, I didn’t tell anyone because I was ashamed.
We all have these stories. The mistakes we made, things we never learned, and choices we wish we could undo. But shame doesn’t move us forward. Honesty does.
A Better Way to Begin Budgeting
Instead of trying to overhaul your entire financial life this week, I want to offer a simpler way to begin. And it doesn’t start with diving into your numbers. It starts with reflection.
Ask yourself the following:
- What am I grateful for right now?
- What emotion comes up when I think about my finances?
- Why am I really trying to get a handle on my money?
Starting with honesty, curiosity, and compassion can help create the kind of clarity that budgeting apps alone can’t offer.
Where Do You Go From Here?
If this message resonates with you, you should check out this past Worth Listening podcast episode where fellow Certified Financial Planner, Chloe Moore, joined me to talk more about how to improve your money mindset.
Episode 160: Behind the Numbers: Improving Your Money Mindset, With Lauryn Williams and Chloé Moore
And if you’re looking for more hands-on support and a place to have real conversations about money, without shame or overwhelm, I’d love for you to explore the Welcome to Wealth online program. We meet live. We talk about mindset before mechanics. And we create a plan that fits your real life.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Hi, I'm Lauryn
Certified Financial Planner
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